It's Christmas, and the day started with me waking from a nightmare. I'm not going to share the nightmare in such a public sphere, but the meaning of it is important. We are all subject to negative influences, demons, an inner darkness, or whatever you want to call it. It can come from within, or it can be external.
The new year will soon be here so, here in the UK at least, we're thinking about new year's resolutions: promises we make in the belief that keeping those promises will lead to a better year. For me, it's the banishing of the aforementioned inner/outer darkness which is important. First of all, we must locate the sources of the negative things in our life, whether we have created them ourselves, or had them created for us. We may notice a pattern of self-sabotage, where our own beliefs and values are holding us back, or we may see that our situation, or the company we keep, is less than ideal. Letting go of these things may not be easy, but it is essential for our happiness.
Often, it is only when we suffer that we see how things should be different. Over the last week, I've suffered with back pain, and it has forced me to evaluate my lifestyle. Knowing what changes should be made is just a start, however: making the changes is potentially more difficult, at least in our minds.
In his book, Instant Calm, Paul Wilson states that we are easily able to walk a plank that is placed on the ground, and will do so repeatedly with equal success. If we suspend the plank between two tall buildings, however, he suggests that the task suddenly becomes impossible, and the source of this is our imagination. So it is with making the necessary changes to our lives. We may make negative predictions about things which could go wrong, and maybe talk ourselves out of making any changes. Well, maybe the tendency to make negative predictions is the first thing we should tackle.
One of my favourite phrases, as I'm sure I must have said before, is "I'll deal with it." It's a powerful tool. The reason it is so powerful is that it calls on past evidence of our ability to deal with things. It is likely that we have suffered many calamities in our lives, and all the evidence points to us having dealt with the aftermath of what appeared to be a great catastrophe at the time.
Ultimately, we can choose to have this dark cloud hanging over us, or we can take action to remove the cloud. Staying where we are may be the easy option, but is it the right one? If you could see what is wrong, it would be foolhardy not to put things right, wouldn't it?
If you're reading this, I hope you're having a good Christmas, if you celebrate the occasion. If you have plans for the new year which scare you, I salute your plans, because they are likely to bring great changes to your life.